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Friday, July 14, 2006

Don't be sad- A small taster

Assalamualaykum warahmatullah wabarakatu,Bismillah Hirah'manir Raheem.
Allahuma Sali'ala sayidina Muhammadin nabiyil ummi wa 'Ala ali wa sahbihi wa salim

I'm sure many of you have heard of the book 'Don't be sad' by 'Aadidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni, well if you haven't you dont know what you're missing!- Here are a few samples of some of the beautiful articles written in there that I thought were personally quite good. I would honestly recommend buying this to add to your libraries, or even suggest buying it for your loved ones during Eid time insha'Allah.

Do not cling to other than Allah

If Allah, the Exalted, is The One Who brings to life, causes death, and if He alone provides for all creation, why fear people or be distressed by their actions? I think that in our society much grief and anxiety is caused by our attachment to people - in seeking to please them, trying to gain their favour, striving to praise the important ones among them, and feeling wounded by their disparaging treatment. And all of this indicated a weakness in one's belief in Allah.
An Arab poet said:

"Would that you were pleased when life is bitter,
And would that you were contented when people are angry,
If your love for Allah is true, then all else is significant,
And all above the dirt is dirt"

The noblest human being

Some salient features of the Messenger of Allah salialahualayhi wassalam's character were contentment, optimism and a generous heart. He was a bearer of glad tidings. He forbade people from extremes of austerity and asceticism, because these lead to repelling people from the truth. Hopelessness and failure were not in his dictionary. A smile was always on his face, and his heart was content. Furthermore, his commands were easy to follow, for his mission to alleviate hardship and to remove the shackles of falsehood that hold people down.

Repel boredom with work

Those who have nothing to do with their lives are the same people who spend most of their time spreading rumours and falsehood, mainly because their minds are devoid of beneficial thoughts:

They are content to be with those [the women] who sit behind [at home]. Their hearts are sealed up [from right guidance] so they understand not. (Qur'an 9:87)

When you find yourself to be idle, prepare for depression and despair because idleness allows your mind to wander in the past, the present, and the future, with all of their difficulties. Therefore, my sincere advice to you is to perform fruitful acts instead of being idle, for idleness is a slow and veiled form of suicide.

Idleness is like the slow torture that is inflicted upon prisoners in China: they are placed under a tap, from which of water falls only after every hour. During the period of waiting between drops, many of them lose their minds and are driven to insanity.
Being active means being negligent of ones duties. Idleness is an expert thief and your mind is its victim.

Therefore get up now and say a prayer or read a book; praise your Lord, study, write, organise your library, fix something in your house, or benefit others so that you can put an end to your inactivity. I say this only because I sincerely wish for your betterment.

Destroy boredom by working. When you apply this simple percept alone, you will have travelled at least fifty percent of the way towards happiness. Look at farmers, carpenters, and the bread-maker, and observe how they are working, they recite words as melodious as the singing of birds, because they are content. Afterwards observe yourself and how you toss and turn on your bed while wiping away your tears, always miserable, always torturing yourself.

Pre-ordainment

A man who had a mental disorder and an extreme anxiety problem sought advice from a Muslim doctor, who advised him, saying, "Know that no matter what the plans are that someone has for the future, there is no movement, not so much as a whisper, in this world but that it occurs by the permission of Allah."

The following is related in a hadith:
"Verily, Allah wrote the Maqaadeer (everything that will happen) of the creation fifty thousand years before He created them."

Al-Mutanabbi wrote:
"Small things are greatly magnified in the eyes of the small one, And great things are diminished in size in the eyes of the great one."

Duaas kindly requested,
Wassalamualaykum warahmatullah