Keeping the right company
I begin in the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Most Merciful.
Allahuma Sali'ala sayidina Muhammadin nabiyil ummi wa 'Ala ali wa sahbihi wa salim
Many of us are aware of the saying "you are the company with which you keep", in some weird way deep down we all know it's true. Your friends have a big influence over who you are. Very many of us can relate to it from the way we chose to live our lives or even to just the way we speak.
Subhan'Allah such effect they have on us and most of the time we do not even realise it.
In life it is undoubtdly essential that we keep righteous companions because they help to keep your feet firm on the ground, furthermore they help guide your footsteps to siratul mustaqeem, doing otherwise will help you to walk astray.
Ahmed ibn Harb (R.A.) said: "There is nothing more beneficial to a Muslim's heart than to mix with the righteous and to watch their actions, while nothing is more harmful to the heart of the Muslim than mixing with sinners, and watching their actions.".
It is amazing to see how much our surrounding influences us and in Islam keeping good company is something that is encouraged to do. People who are practising and follow Islam help others to gain that nearness and closeness to Allah. Mixing with lovers of Allah can cause ones self to change in morals, behavious, attitude to this dunya(life).
After time mixing with good people can help us enable to adopt their good behaviour and qualities, likewise the same goes for mixing with bad friends, we can be unfortunate and end up adopting their bad behaviour.
We as muslims need to adopt good manners and to have a friendly attitude to everyone so that we may encourage one another to enjoin in the good and forbid the evil. We need to have a behaviour such that we invite those who are not so practising to become practising and to teach one another about Islam through good manners. This is part of our deen, part of the sunnah of Muhammad Salialahu 'alayhi wassalam.
Sometimes it's so sad to see people who go around looking at other people's faults and spreading them, rather than giving them dawah and teaching what the correct thing to do is. This in itself is a big wrong doing, spreading someones sins is a sin and it is our duty as muslims to help each other gain nearness towards Allah Ta'ala, whether the second person choses to act upon what you have told them is up to them and they themselves will be accountable. We should look at ourselves and try to correct ourselves at the same time, we should be our biggest critics.
Helping each other to become good, to show good behaviour, to engage in Ibadaah(worship) is something we should be doing all the time.
Actions like these should not be for any wordly gain but for the sole pleasure of Allah Ta'ala. The Prophet Salialahu 'alayhi wassalam said: "Whoever loves for Allah, and hates for Allah, gives for Allah and withholds for Allah, has completed his faith." (Abu Dawud)
Our companions should be those who are believers in Allah and his prophet. Allah says in the Holy Quraan:
"And who so obeys Allah and the Messenger (Muhammad sali 'alahu 'alayhi wassalam), then they will be in the company of those on whom Allah has bestowed His Grace, of the prophets, the Siddiqun (those followers of the prophets who were first and foremost to believe in them), the martyrs, and the righteous. And how excellent these companions are." [4:69]
Subhan'Allah Allah The Almighty has placed so much greatness in sharing good companions.
Gathering together in the rememberance of Allah Ta'ala is also something that is very meritous.
There's something that I learnt the other day whilst listening to a talk about keeping good company, but do not have the exact words so forgive me if there's any mistake:
Allah sends down the malaaikah (angels) to carry out various jobs, one of these jobs include seeing the ahlul dhikr(people who are remembering Allah Ta'ala) in a gathering. The angels then attend the gathering and listen, and surround the people in the gathering. The angels then ascend to Jannah to speak to Allah. Allah asks the angels "What are my servants saying?" The angels then reply "Oh Allah they are, Subhan'Allah, alhamdulilah, Allah hu akbar and laaila ha illalah". Allah then says "Can My servants who recite such see Me?" The angels then reply "Oh Allah they do not see You". Allah then says "What if they were to see me?". The angels then reply "They will be stronger in their Shahadah and their belief". Then Allah says "What do they want from Me?". The angels then reply "Oh Allah they want Al- Jannah(paradise)".Allah then replies "Have they seen Al-Jannah?".The angels reply "Oh Allah they have not". Allah says "What are they seeking refuge from?". The angels then say "Oh Allah they are seeking refuge in you from Jahannam(the hellfire)". Allah then says "Have they seen Jahannam?". The angels then say "Oh Allah they have not". Then Allah says "Then I make you bear witness that I forgive them".
Subhan'Allah the benefits of being together in a gathering and remembering The Almighty are so great. If it's anything that we are in need of today then it is Allah subahana wata'ala's forgiveness. Therefore I conclude this long winded post by saying that we should try our best to keep good company and encourage our friends around us to engage in those acts which are loved by Allah. Delivering good naseeha (advice) is also something that we ourselves should aim to do and better ourselves in doing.
May Allah give us all the inclination to make and keep righteous friends. May He increase our friendly attitude towards one another whilst spreading His deeen. May He give us the ability to love one another for His sake solely. Ameen wa thuma ameen.
Please remember me in your duaas.
Wa alaykum salam warahmatullah